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What do I need in order to use the IM?

• Have Flash installed
• Have Javascript enabled
• Have popups for this site enabled
• Read and follow the rules below

See section on Chat Problems for more information

How do I chat privately with another member?
There are several ways to do this:

1. You can click the "IM" button while viewing a member's profile. This will popup a chat window where you can chat with the member.
2. When you are in the Public Chat, you can chat privately with another chat-user by doing one of the following:
   
   1. Click on their username on the username list on the left. Their info and picture will load in the window in the lower left of the chat. Then click the IM button underneath their picture. A private chat window will load for both of you so you can chat between the two of you.
   2. In the Public Chat window, you can type <nameOfUser>: private message. This will put your private message along with the public messages in the web chat window. But only the user you type will see your message. For example. If you want to type a private message to Tallbrunette22. Type <Tallbrunette22>: this is a private message. This is called a "whisper". Be careful when you do this, otherwise all will see what you have written.

I am trying to IM a member, but they are not answering?

1. Make sure to type a message and press send. The chat doesn't load on their end until you type the first message.
2. Be patient. The other member must read the Chat Terms before chatting with you, so allow enough time for that.
3. It could be that they are not online on the site, and are not receiving your chat.
4. It could be that they do not have a browser that will work with the chat.
5. It could be that they simply do not have time or want to chat at this time.
6. You can try again later, or send them an email.

To add the member you are chatting with to your Favorites List:
Click the "+" button in the upper right of the chat window, and the member will be added to your Favorites List. You can access this list by clicking on "Favorites" in the top navigation bar.

To Block/Unblock the member from chatting with you:
Click the button underneath the "+" button in the upper right of the chat window, if it says block, then clicking the button will block the member from chatting with you. If it says "unblock" then the member is already blocked and clicking the button will unblock the member and enable chatting again. The block button will block the member from IMing you, and you will no longer be able to see what the member types in the public chat.

How do I view the members profile:
Click the grey button with the member's username in it. The members profile will load in the window BEHIND the chat.

What are the Chat rules, and will I get banned for breaking them?
You must know and follow the rules to use the chat. Failing to do so, could result in you being banned from the chat or from the site. Chatting is a privilege that most sites charge for. Chat is free on this site, but you must follow the rules!

Technical Problems with the chat?
See the section on Chat Problems.

What do I need in order to use the Chat?

• Have Flash installed
• Have Javascript enabled
• Have popups for this site enabled
• Read and follow the rules below

See section on Chat Problems for more information

How do I access the Connecting Singles Chat Rooms?
Click on Chat in the top navigation bar. Read the Chat info and rules and make sure you agree. If so, scoll to the bottom of the page and click "I agree, Launch Chat". A window will popup and the Chat will load in that window. Near the bottom of the window you can type text and press "send" and the other members in the chat room will see what you typed.
If you do not agree with any of the rules and terms, then do not use the chat rooms.

Can I switch rooms once I'm in the chat?
When you first enter the chat, you will be in the default room called "Connecting Singles Lounge". To switch rooms, find the room you want to join on the left side of the chat, then click on that room to select it, and then click the "Join" button. Members in the rooms will know when you enter and when you leave.

Can I create my own chat room?
Yes you can! Just click "New Room" on the upper left side of the chat window. Then at the prompt, type in a room name, and a description of that room, and press "OK". Others will see your new room immediately and will be able to join it.

How do I view another member's profile while in a chat room?
Click on their username in the user list on the left side of the chat window. Their thumbnail photo and a brief summary will appear on the lower left side of the chat window. To view their profile, click the "Profile" button under their info. Their profile will load in the window behind the chat.

What does the "Add Friend" button do?
When you select a username in the left side of the chat, the member's Profile Stats will load in the lower left of the chat, along with a button to "Add Friend". This button will add this member to your Favorites List. You can access your Favorites List by clicking on "Favorites" in the top navigation bar. Once you have added the member as a Friend to your Favorites List, the button will change to say "Remove Friend". Clicking this button will remove this member from your Favorites List.

How do I block a member from chatting with me?
Find the username in the list on the left side of the chat window and click on it. The member's information will load in the lower left of the chat, along with a button to "Block". This button will block this member from IMing you, and you will no longer be able to see what that member types in the public chat. Once blocked, the button will change to say "Unblock". Click this button to unblock the member.

Can I send a private message to another member while in the public chat room?
Yes you can. There are two ways to do this:

1. Click on their username on the username list on the left. Their info and picture will load in the window in the lower left of the chat. Then click the IM button underneath their picture. A private chat window will load between you and the other user where you can chat between the two of you. Other members will not know about your private chat or be able to read it. (their window will not load until you type something and press "send" first).
2. In the public chat window, you can type <nameOfUser>: private message. This will put your private message along with the public messages in the web chat window. But only the user you type will see your message. For example. If you want to type a private message to Tallbrunette22. Type <Tallbrunette22>: this is a private message. This is called a "whisper". Be careful when you do this, otherwise all will see what you have written.

Is the Chat moderated?
To use Chat features, members agree to follow the Chat Rules. Minors cannot use this site so members are all adults and expected to act accordingly. Staff does not hold hands here to make sure members follow rules. Staff may view chat areas occasionally and when called. Rule breakers WILL be removed with or without notice! Staff will cooperate with law enforcement when required to provide transcripts if law is broken.

What are the Chat rules, and will I get banned for breaking them?
Chat is provided free on this site to help members get to know each other. Chat Rules help to make it fun and safe for everyone. Failure to follow the Chat Rules may result in you being banned from using chat or from the site. Chatting is a privilege that most sites charge for. Don't risk losing this feature. Report rule breakers & solicitors.

Technical Problems with the chat?
See the section on Chat Problems.

If you are having problems with the chat, make sure that you have the following:

1. Javascript enabled. Click this button to test for javascript. If a message popups up that says "Javascript is Enabled" then it is.
   
   
   
   
2. A web browser that supports popups, and that popups are enabled for ConnectingSingles.com. Click this button to see if popups are enabled for ConnectingSingles.com. If a message popups up that says "Popups are Enabled", then they are.
   
   
   
   
3. The latest Macromedia Flash plug-in. You can download the Flash player for free at Macromedia. Click this button to see if flash is enabled for ConnectingSingles.com. If it says "Flash is installed: true", then it is.
   
   

If you still have problems, try clearing your browser's cache.

For Internet Explorer: click on Tools, Internet Options, General Tab, Delete Cookies, and Delete Files.
For Mozilla: click on Edit, Preferences, under Category, click on Advanced, highlight the word Cache, Go to the top of the page, under Cache, click on the Cache button, then ok at the bottom of the page.

1. No soliciting of any kind for websites, products, services, or directing members to other websites.
2. DO NOT SEND MONEY to anyone on this Chat or this site!. If you send money, you WILL GET SCAMMED! If anyone asks you for money, report it to Contact Us immediately.
3. No vulgar, explicit, sexual, insulting, or offensive language.
4. No Flaming: Do not engage or join into activities which directly or indirectly harass, threaten, abuse or intimidate other members. In other words, don't be mean to others, and no pack attacks.
5. No Flooding: Do not monopolize the chat room by entering large amounts of text. This keeps others from being able to share their opinions, is rude, and disrupts the flow of chat.
6. NO TYPING IN ALL CAPS.
7. No derogatory or offensive references to sex, gender, ethnicity, or sexual orientation.
8. Do not gossip, expose, or post copies of private emails or complaints of other members. Abuse reports and complaints about members should be sent to Contact Us, not posted in the chat.
9. No personally identifiable info, email addresses, phone numbers, addresses, URLs. This is for your safety and privacy. No attempts to collect other members personal info either.
10. No bashing this site or the moderators here. This is a free site… if you don’t like the way things are handled here, you are as free to leave as you were to join.
11. Members have the right to refuse any request for person-to-person chat from another member. Don’t react rudely. Find someone else to chat with.
12. There are no member-moderators on Connecting Singles. Anyone that pretends to be a moderator or pretends to work for ConnectingSingles.com will be banned.
13. Read the rules. Members who use chat are expected to read and follow the rules. Staff does not sit and hold hands here to make sure you follow them. If you break the rules, you will be removed with or without warning or notice.

• You submitted an invalid email address or other invalid information
• You do not reside within membership area - if your location is not on list, you may not join.
• You did not complete your profile
• You entered gibberish in narratives
• You entered narrative text that is not appropriate for the site
• You used the site for soliciting or advertising, posting a URL.
• You posted inappropriate or offensive content to the forums.
• We received complaints about your profile or your behavior on the site.
• You entered more than one profile. You already have a profile here
• You are not single.
• You are under 18 (or at least your photo looks that way).

• The member has been removed from the site by staff (as a result of complaints received about the member, or the member using the site for purposes other than dating: mass mailing, soliciting, requesting money from people, etc.)
• The member has hidden their profile
• The member has cancelled their profile
• If you are trying to find them via a username search, you may have misspelled their username.

• Members who click on your full profile page will appear on your list.
  
• If they see your profile in search results, but don't click on your full profile, they will not appear on your "Who's Viewed Me" list.
  
• If a person clicks on your profile, but has their own "Who's View Me" list turned off, they will not show on your "Who's Viewed Me" list.
• Multiple views on lists are recorded only once. If you view a profile or they view you several times, the view appears only one time on View Lists

• woman seeking a man: only men seeking women will appear on your "Who's Viewed Me" list.
• man seeking a woman: only women seeking men will appear on your "Who's Viewed Me" list.
• woman seeking a woman: only women seeking women will appear on your "Who's Viewed Me" list.
• man seeking a man: only men seeking men will appear on your "Who's Viewed Me" list.

• You will not see who has viewed your profile
• Others will not see you have viewed them
• Any existing views on your Who’s Viewed Me List will be deleted permanently
• No views to your profile will be recorded while this feature is turned off - so you will not know who is viewing your profile while you have it turned off.

• You will start seeing who has viewed your profile
• Others will see you have viewed them
• Multiple views on lists are recorded only once. If you view a profile or they view you several times, the view appears only one time on View Lists

• That member may have their "Who's Viewed Me" list turned off, so their view to your profile was not recorded
• You may have "Who's Viewed Me" turned off, so that views to your profile are not being recorded
• Who's Viewed Me has not been updated yet...there is a slight delay in the view being recorded
• The member clicked on the Email/Flower button on the results page without viewing your full profile.

• You just joined, and so no one has had the chance to viewed your profile yet
• You don't have a photo and so you aren't appearing on very many search results. Most members search by photo-only.
• You have just turned this feature on after having it off for a while. While it was off, views to your profile were not being recorded.
• Your views were automatically deleted by our system after 60 days, and you haven't been checking them.
• There is a several hour delay with Who's Viewed Me, and so there may be people on your list, but they aren't showing up yet.

• Add a photo to your profile
• Post to the Forums
• Post a Blog
• Don't wait for someone to come to you. Send lots of mail and flowers.

• Members who break the rules or whose behavior on the site, blogs, or forums is unacceptable may be removed without warning.
• Members who attempt to use the site for reasons other than dating (such as soliciting of ANY kind, money or romance scam, building mailing lists, identity theft, multiple or fake profiles, or any suspicious activity) will be removed.
• Members under legal age will be removed.
• If the profile of someone you have been communicating with suddenly disappears, they have likely been removed for safety and quality of the site and members. No warning or notice will be sent.

• Did you include your email address in the narrative text on your profile or forums posts here or on another site? (against site rules) If so, your email address may be picked up and placed on email lists and you will subject yourself to loads of spam!
• Did you give your email address out to someone you didn't know online? Unfortunately, some people use online dating sites, to build email lists. These people will pressure you for your email address early on, and won't be interested in communicating through the site at all. They will make excuses for not communicating on the site (like using the photo excuse: saying they can't upload a photo to this site and wanting your email address to send you a photo). If you don't give your email address, they will move on to the next target.
• Think about the other places you have entered your email address on or offline...where you may have been added to an email list.

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